Alright, I think enough is enough! The media has twisted this whole issue into something that is so far from reality the story has become almost fiction.
Revenge Website
First, let's address this issue of how everybody's calling the website a "revenge website". This is not revenge - this is reciprocity. There is a difference. Desiree I did this exact same thing to me a few years ago, but because she's a chronic pothead who can't keep an organized thought in her head, she did it poorly. Still, because of her actions it harmed a lot of my relationships. I didn't go cry to the police, the courts, and the media about it. I put it behind me and I moved on!
Reciprocity means doing something back to someone as they've done to you. That is all the website is.
Cyber-Bullying
All of the media has been throwing this term around. Bullying is when someone in a superior position exerts force against someone in a weaker position. That is not the case here! For years, while Desiree was working at Apollo Group and I was having financial difficulties, she hired lawyers to make my life even more difficult; she refused to contribute any assistance for our son. She would rather our son walk around in shoes with holes in them than to provide $10 toward the cost of a pair of shoes for him when he's not in her care! email dated 2012-04-23
The fact that the tables have now turned and I'm the one doing well and she's down on her luck does not make this bullying. Whenever she has been in a superior position she has always used that against me. Have you not read any of her emails from 2011 through 2013? They're here on the website.
Moreover, if a person initiates aggression against another but then starts losing the fight how can that person claim she's being bullied? It was not me that pushed myself into her life and started throwing everything into disarray. She is the one that came back after nine years then started doing underhanded, deceitful things. She is the one that initiated all this hostility by taking our son by force, after only two visits, rather than taking the time to build a relationship with him first. Just because she's now losing this fight doesn't mean I'm bullying her - it just means she attacked the wrong person and took on more than she could handle.
Let's take a look at an email she sent me on February 17, 2013 immediately after she found out I was released from ICE custody and the family court was, likely, going to order her to return our son to my care. At that point she didn't know I had been deported.
...I also want to make it very clear that I'm not proposing this out of weakness or fear. Immigration and homeland security are not my only avenues and if pushed I will pursue them - I agree that I will probably not "win" in family court, but I have no intention of "beating" you there.email dated 2013-02-17
And what did the court do about that? Nothing! So why is it acceptable for her to threaten me? So she is the poor, harmless victim everybody is rallying behind?
Defamation
Desiree's whole story is based on the presumption that the content of the website is all lies. Yet, she has not been able to provide a single piece of evidence to support any of her claims. At the same time, the website contains documents (police reports, court records, her own written statements) to support my claims against her which she insists are false.
Defamation is the deliberate publishing of false information about a person in order to harm that person's reputation. When the information is true it is not defamation! When the information is true there is nothing illegal about publishing it - no matter how harmful it might be to the person's reputation.
Every single word about Desiree, on the website, is completely true. That, and that alone, is the reason she has not filed a defamation suit. The cost of an attorney has nothing to do with it. She can represent myself - she's already doing that in our family court case and in her other divorce and child custody case. She knows that in order to proceed with a defamation suit she would have to be able to show that the information is false and she just can't do that.
Moreover, Desiree admitted in a live radio interview on the Aaron Rand show, on 2016-02-19, that she hasn't even spoken to any lawyers about the possibility of a defamation suit I Fucked Myself by Doing a Live Interview.
Harassment
Harassment, whether in the US or in Canada, necessarily requires an element of contact between the parties. Publicly speaking about another person, no matter what you're saying about them, is not harassment! It really is that simple! The entire media story is based on a false premise. There is absolutely no law in the US or Canada, and no court in the US or Canada has the authority to compel a person to not speak about another person. Particularly, if the statements are true - as they are on the website.
Summary
I have yet to see anything in the media which attempts to realistically convey the reason I created the website, or the reason I am adamant about not taking it down. Everybody is so wrapped up in poor little Desiree that they completely disregard everything she has done.
For Christ's sake, I posted, yesterday, proof that she's been lying about me hiding our son from her. Her own words in a declaration she filed with the family court in 2011!
Stop being fucking sheep! Being led around by the media which very clearly has no interest in reporting the full story. Read about some of the things Desiree has done recently. Decide for yourself instead of letting some journalist with her own agenda tell you what you should think.
Alright, I have work to do!
You all are so wrong when you say that this isn’t defamation. Please stop already, you’re hurting my brain. Yes, it’s defamation, truth would only be a defense if she were a politician, etc. Now, you say a lot of stupid stuff on here, but you can at least stop saying that this isn’t defamation lest some dumb homeowner actually worth suing (which you clearly aren’t) follows your example. Here’s a guide to help you out: http://www.thebarcode.net/pdf/CheatSheetSamples.pdf
I’m not sure where you’re getting the idea that the truth defence only applies to politicians. According to the Canadian Bar Association (http://www.cbabc.org/For-the-Public/Dial-A-Law/Scripts/Your-Rights/240), truth is always a defence against a claim of defamation. Though I’d have to review the current case law to provide a better argument.
Well, she’s in the U.S. and you are trying to harm her in the U.S., so I would argue that the U.S. law is relevant. But the Canadian law as stated in the article you provided appears to have a similar wrinkle here:
“4. Fair comment
We all are free to comment—even harshly—about issues of public interest, as long as we are clear that our comments are:
statements of opinion, not fact.
based on facts that can be proven.
not made maliciously.
For example, a newspaper columnist may write that a Member of Parliament (an MP) says he supports equality and equal rights, but he opposes same-sex marriages. The columnist writes that the MP is hypocritical. If the MP sues the columnist for defamation, the columnist may have the defence of fair comment.
5. Responsible communication on matters of public interest”
It’s the “matters of public interest” part. The law is different when you are talking about a private individual. You’ve said horrible things about your ex for the stated purpose of driving her to poverty and suicide. Much of it is mere opinion “she’s a druggie…bad person…and so on.” Further, I’m not sure that (in the U.S.) even truth would protect you from any harm she suffers from your classy “cooking oil” story. It has to do with the burden of proof. Either way, I’d personally love to sue the crap out of you for this shameful spectacle, but if you don’t have any assets it’s not worth anyone’s time. That’s probably the only reason you haven’t already been sued.
This is fucked up. You need to move on man. Tired of seeing your bullshit in the news… and before you say it, this is in the news because of you, no one else.
BTW. you know you made the NYC AREA news. Also it’s been passed around in Reddit. Lots of people know she is fucked up, but you more then her. And most are in agreement that your son is fucked as well (with 2 fucked up parents).
Good on you man
She might be a bitch but your a bigger one.
You have a point about reciprocity Patrick. If people always turned the other cheek then the cheaters would have a field day! And if you got even with some guy, they you would have more support. You see, you are not following your gender role that you were given at birth. When a woman victimizes a man, the man is supposed to “take it like a man.” You are supposed to remain quiet and not show any hurt. This male role thing predates feminism, but the feminists take full advantage of it.
**I put it behind me and I moved on!**
No you are not, you are resolving in using the same method she is. Are you that retarded that you can’t see how this makes no sense?
You are as childish as she is. You both really deserve each other…
“Moved on” as in didn’t file complaints and whine to people to try to help me. Got back on my feet so I could get to a point where I could reciprocate.
Move on with what? The crazy woman has got his son!
Patrick, the media has twisted this issue? I don’t read beyond your lead, so I assume you’re writing as Patrick, the blog writer/owner, correct?
Well in that case if you think the media has twisted the issue, you’re fucking waaaay off the mark.
The media has grabbed on to the “warped image” of Patrick Fox because the public has no stomach for lying psychopaths.
Actually, as you well know, Patrick Fox, the media and the public of the world are seeing you for exactly who you are – a diseased maggot.
Patrick Fox is who everyone hates right now, for just cause – you’re a smarmy little faggot!
Your wife is well rid of you and the entire world knows why. Stop acting incredulous.
If you would actually read and publish the approaching 1000 (984 at this writing) comments directed your way on this blog, instead of only publishing a miniscule 100 – 200, the entire world would know how disgusting the majority of us think you are, and you wouldn’t be able to hide what a shit you are, any more.
What an idiot you must think you are right now Patrick if you’re honest with yourself you must know you so totally fucked up with that CBC interview.
Then again, you are not a person with a history of being honest, are you, Richard?
The CBC, whenever providing its thoroughly biased, misandrist coverage of this website, has its censors delete any comments that describe the men supporting the blatant misandry as manginas, while they happily let commenters libel Patrick by accusing him of being a cyberbully, or even a stalker.
Talk about double standards.
How do you know how many comments the blog has received, you homophobic maggot?
*I* can tell you how many: 673 comments which I’ve approved and are published; 152 which I’ve flagged as spam (almost all of which were from 174.6.92.144). I’ve since blocked that IP address from the site completely.
love it andso, love it
Holy fuck dude…..
I’m going to call Shaw, have them roll over to your crib in Van and rip that fucking cable modem of yours out out of the wall…..you’re getting pathetic
Explain to me what point or points you’re trying to make. Explain to everyone why you keep changing your username and replying to your own posts. I know it’s a full moon and all but I bet the rest of your psych ward isn’t anywhere near being as cranked as you are.
And for clarification, the above post is directed at yoyouou, mypie, tuktuk and every other alias IP 174.6.92.144 decides he’s going to use.
The above post is directed to mypie and the hundred other aliases he/she uses.
I can only agree on one thing, and that is if she wouldnt have gone to the media, most of us would never have known about this childish site.
Other then that,move on. Show your kid how a real man behaves. They tend to follow in there parents footsteps
I am 40 year old woman and I’ve been following your story with interest. I admit I’m getting a vicarious thrill over you successfully exposing your nasty ex-wife Desiree Capuano. It appears she didn’t think things through before contacting the media. Now your exposure website is international news. I guess the shameless narcissist had no qualms about drawing attention to her repugnant behavior in exchange for some screen time. I’m not buying for a second her victim act or those crocodile tears she’s shedding. I wonder if she’s expecting some reality TV producers to come a courtin’.
I suspect Desiree Capuano is a sociopath based on the information presented and the fact that only a sociopath can engender the level of hate and anger is takes to create a website like this. Patrick, I don’t know what you were like before you met this woman, but I suspect you never wished for a life devoted to destroying another person, especially the mother of your son.
My sister is a sociopath and she has gone out of her way to cause severe damage to my life. She even recruited a few thugs to assist her. She has gotten away with it and continues to get away with it. Female sociopaths are highly skilled manipulators and way more subtle than male sociopaths. They play the poor suffering meek and innocent while behind closed doors they are driving their victim to suicide. I stress – behind closed doors. I understand the anger. I understand the hate. I understand being denied a defense. I understand being denied justice. I understand the need to take matters into your own hands, to even the score, set the record straight, and expose the sociopath for the liar and manipulator she is. I also understand that this makes most people uncomfortable and that means shooting the messenger – you.
Without exercising any critical thinking, these sheeple automatically vilify the person shouting the truth. Yeah, the truth may be ugly and presented in a context outside the norm of “appropriate behavior.” So what?! It doesn’t change what is. Do these sheeple ever take into consideration the egregious behavior initiated by the aggressor that drove you to this point? They’re all just whistling in the dark. They don’t think it can happen to them. They don’t think they could ever be capable of the type of anger and hate it takes to create a website like this. SO NAÏVE.
Unless you’ve had the misfortune of being related to a sociopath, targeted by one or conned into marrying one and living the nightmare of shared custody, you have no clue as to what these people are capable of and the amount of havoc they can wreak in the lives of others. They can fill the most peace loving individual with rage. Sociopaths like Desiree Capuano and my sister aren’t just disliked, they are utterly despised. Therein lies the sociopath’s curse. Normal people are tormented by the level of hatred the sociopath produces in them. It is torture to carry around such anger and website likes this are sometimes the most harmless ways to vent it. Believe me, when you’re entertaining fantasies of the sociopath being run over by an 18 wheeler, a website such as this is tame.
Patrick, I realize most people think you are a vindictive piece of shit. That’s not my take. I see what you’re doing as a form of justice and something you needed to do so you wouldn’t implode. Also, you’ve been very forthright about your actions and your intentions – as unappealing as they are, and as unhinged as you appear to be – this is something the sociopath would never reveal. Like I said, they do their dirty work behind closed doors. They are con artists and liars. They wear masks. At least you’re willing to be hated and seen as a crank in order to speak your truth. Not so the sociopath. The sociopath just wants pity. Their entire existence is a lie.
However, I have to ask, to what end are you willing to sacrifice your life and your relationship with your son to “destroy” a sociopath? As much as exposure sites like yours are good for warning others and getting the word out about the sociopath’s true nature, and temporarily getting under their skin, they do very little in deterring the sociopath’s actions. There’s not much one can do to destroy a sociopath, short of killing them. If Desiree Capuano was normal she might be suicidal due to this public humiliation, but make no mistake, she’s not normal. She’s shameless and she’s probably getting a drug rush from all the attention she’s getting. Yes, some people may avoid her in the future, but she doesn’t care about that. Sociopaths are like sharks. They injure and kill cold bloodedly and keep on moving in search of the next feed.
Having my life shredded by a sociopath sister has given me a death grip on reality. I no longer view the world as I once did. I’m well aware that life is not fair. I know that evil thrives because there seems to be a worldwide phobia of its existence. I also realize that if you take the legal route you get law, or at the very best negotiation, but rarely ever do you get justice. I’ve also learned that sociopaths live for the game and they play to win. In other words, the attention your website has garnered is likely feeding the bitch and her equally vile mother. Think: shameless narcissistic trash that get famous through crude sex tapes. Women like Desiree Capuano have no rock bottom.
There’s not much you can do to harm her. She’s shameless. She’s a parasite. So even though you’ve outed her, and disrupted her con game, and even if her current target gets fed-up and kicks her to the curb, she will find another host to attach herself to and feed. She’s not aging well. She looks at least 10 years older than she is so her looks are fading fast. She also closely resembles The Grinch. With time and drug use she will lose her ability to charm another unsuspecting fool. Maybe she’ll lose her ability to hold down a job. Maybe she’ll even OD. But the only person capable of destroying Desiree is Desiree. I understand wanting to speed up the process, but what would devastate a normal human being doesn’t have the same effect on a sociopath. They are cockroaches. And some of these cockroaches go through life without ever being taken to task. You’ve already achieved that on a wide scale.
You have to ask yourself, what’s the end game? What’s your goal? Are you trying to destroy your ex-wife or get your son back? If you’re trying to get your son back and nurture a relationship with him, you’re going in the wrong direction. You’ve admitted that if it takes destroying your life to expose Desiree that’s what you are willing to do. I guess your son will be without a father. Doesn’t that defeat the purpose of your crusade? And haven’t you already exposed her?
Your website is up forever. Even if you remove it, it will pop-up somewhere else. So taking it down is not the issue. You need to decide if you want to sacrifice your life for this cockroach. If you do, you are treating yourself with the same aggression she inflicted on you. She isn’t worth it. And from what I know about sociopaths, she will get a power high from being responsible for your downfall. Here’s a story of a man who committed suicide because his sociopath ex-wife and the family law court system failed him and caused him such grief. https://avoiceformen.com/featured/here-come-the-lawyers-to-avfm-yet-again/
You may want to drive that sociopath Desiree Capuano to suicide, but from what I’ve learned about sociopaths, they aren’t usually suicidal. They are the ones that drive others to suicide and self-destructive acts. Consider for a moment that perhaps the evil bitch is succeeding in driving you to commit a slow suicide. My sociopathic sister wanted nothing more than to destroy me by driving me to self-harm. I recognized this and reversed my direction. I will never let anyone have that much power over me.
I hope you decide to save yourself. Perhaps this media attention is the crescendo of the battle and when it all plays out you can walk away. If you do, you will not only save yourself but your son too as long as he didn’t end up with the sociopath gene. The kid needs one healthy parent. Desiree Capuano and the company she keeps are clearly low-life trash. Step back and give the bitch and her scumbag brigade all the rope they need.
I wish you well.
http://bullyonline.org/old/related/family.htm
Thanks. I’m going to reply to this directly, assuming the address is correct.
Keep up the good work! The people that support you, are for the most part, quite well spoken and understanding of the situation. As for the people that disagree with the content, their comments really speak for themselves. The site is informative and mild compared to the some of the threats made by a few commentators. Are these being monitored by the RCMP?
If not, why not?
They, the RCMP, were very willing to detain you, now how about going after some real hatemongers as displayed here.
This story is becoming more and more interesting.
Atta boy!
Thank you for the support. To the best of my knowledge, I don’t believe the RCMP is aware of the strongly worded messages I’ve received. Honestly, I’d feel a little hypocritical notifying the RCMP about it – though, really some of the messages that I’ve received have been far more graphic than anything I’ve ever said.
Dude. And when she does some parenting you still go off on her LMAO. OMG. YOU ARE A HORRIBLE FATHER. from this website an email directed to Desiree
Babying G*****
From: Patrick
To: Desiree Capuano
Date: Sun, Jul 12 2015 3:05:38 pm
G***** tells me that when you bring him to the airport you get a security pass and
escort him right up to the point that he boards the plane. Are you fucking retarded?
Why do single mothers always baby their kids? Dude, he’s 14 for Christ’s sake.
A parent’s duty to their child is to prepare them for life as an adult. Coddling children doesn’t do that. But again, you’re not looking at the message in context. By 14 years old he should be able to get to the airport gate on his own. When I bring him to the airport I don’t need to hold his hand. What she’s doing is creating children that are overly dependent on her.
It’s nice to see an intelligent guy fighting back. The days of freedom of expression are being dragged away and it is good to see someone make s stand.
Best of luck!
So question: why did you delete this blog entry
https://www.desireecapuano.com/blogs/and-now-for-someone-who-is-much-sicker-than-both-richard-and-desiree/ saved pdf of page you removed – https://mega.nz/#!LpIUQApB!QVgRbM-vtJBLAM846zwCDcGrveVbI5B0kcFuYMwdrSw
Because the site was starting too get cluttered with posts that have nothing to do with Desiree. I’ve republished it.
This entire site is sick.
Has it occurred to you that you don’t have to come to it?
Your site is awesome. You have my sincere sympathy for being with her and what she put you through. I’ve known people like her. My sister is just like Desiree without the drugs.
Don’t you love your son. If you did you would stop humiliating his mother. By doing this you’re also hurting and humiliating him. Everyone he knows will see this website since it’s now in the news. Do you care about his life? You’re ruining his life too not just your ex’s. It’s YOU who he’s going to hate. What about when he’s 18 and free to travel? Do you think this will make him want to come to Canada and see you?
I think you need to close down this website and beg for your son’s forgiveness. IMHO
You have it backwards Christina. It is Desiree who should be begging for her son’s forgiveness. I am now in my 60s and I have witnessed many examples of mothers using the feminist legal system to steal children away from their fathers. The psychological research shows that boys generally do better with their single parent dads than their moms. I have witnessed many boys ending up hating their mothers for what they did to them. Patrick does not have a legal choice because the courts and child welfare systems are biased against men. Would I have done what Patrick has done? No, because I am not into revenge. I would have taken a more political route with groups fighting for men’s equality. But I can understand Patrick’s pain.
I’m just worried about his son. His son is going to have to deal with EVERYONE knowing of his mother’s past mistakes and his father’s crazy, abusive website. His father is posting pictures of his mother’s bed saying this is where she gets naked and f#$ks.? Poor kid! This boy’s dad seems like an abuser. He’s not doing himself any favors…
Wow!! What a pathetic sub-spinal orifice you are Patrick. Get a fuckin life man. You’re nothing but a fucked up stalker no matter what kind of lipstick you slap on it. Fuckin loser probably don’t have one friend left in the world outside of family and they don’t count (but probably can’t stand you anyway) You should really take the advice you gave your ex and off yourself. And guess what… nobody will give a shit.
Magina, Mangina, Mangina. You’re nothing but a fucked up Mangina no matter what kind of lipstick you slap on it. Patrick is exercising his right to freedom of speech. You should really take the advice you gave Patrick and off yourself. Nobody will give a shit you fkn mangina.
You are actually one of the worse men that I have ever seen. You are jest upset that you were caught being an illegal and forced to go home. What you want is your son to live in poverty, in shame and above all the knowledge that you are an ass hole…
Exactly! He doesn’t love his son. If he did he’d be trying to help and care for his son not hurt him. All this stuff being posted is just going to humiliate his son now, and in the future. So sad!
hi can you clarify something for me are some of the posts in the blog section stuff that you are saying she wrote it is kind of confusing
it seems like they are partially your posts and then stuff that also came from her but I can’t really figure it out for sure
The posts that appear to be from Desiree were written by me, but from her perspective. I’m attempting to give the reader an idea of how she perceives the world. I’ll add my name to the posts that are from my perspective.
As if I be stupid enough to give you ANY personal information.
Here are a few definitions you may find helpful:
Simple Definition of reciprocity
: a situation or relationship in which two people or groups agree to do something similar for each other, to allow each other to have the same rights, etc. : a reciprocal arrangement or relationship
re·venge
/rəˈvenj/
noun: revenge
1. the action of inflicting hurt or harm on someone for an injury or wrong suffered at their hands.
“other spurned wives have taken public revenge on their husbands”
synonyms:
vengeance, retribution, retaliation, reprisal, requital, recrimination, an eye for an eye (and a tooth for a tooth), redress, satisfaction
“she is seeking revenge”
•the desire to inflict retribution.
“it was difficult not to be overwhelmed with feelings of hate and revenge”
synonyms:
vengefulness, vindictiveness, vitriol, spite, spitefulness, malice, maliciousness, malevolence, ill will, animosity, hate, hatred, rancor, bitterness; literarymaleficence
“they were filled with revenge”
verb:
1. inflict hurt or harm on someone for an injury or wrong done to (someone else).
“it’s a pity he chose that way to revenge his sister”
bully
1
(archaic)
a : sweetheart
b : a fine chap
2
a : a blustering browbeating person; especially : one habitually cruel to others who are weaker
b : pimp
3 :
a hired ruffian
cyberbullying
noun
The use of electronic communication to bully a person, typically by sending messages of an intimidating or threatening nature
harassment
1
a : exhaust, fatigue
b (1) : to annoy persistently (2) : to create an unpleasant or hostile situation for especially by
uninvited and unwelcome verbal or physical conduct
2 :
to worry and impede by repeated raids
proof
a : the cogency of evidence that compels acceptance by the mind of a truth or a fact
b : the process or an instance of establishing the validity of a statement especially by derivation from other statements in accordance with principles of reasoning
* I include the last simply because you seem to (incorrectly) use it often. According to it’s true definition, the only “proof” I have seen is your own admission that contacted your exes current significant others employer. Thereby ‘proving’ that you in fact are vindictive and nasty. Especially considering you also stated the gentlemen has done nothing wrong, other than associating with this woman.
Anyway, hope this helps. I was sure in your quest for setting things ‘right’, you would want to make sure to use these words ‘right’ in the future.
You’re wasting my time!
I’m not sure which dictionary you are using, but your definitions seem to deviate significantly from those in “commonly used” dictionaries, such as Webster. And, in legal contexts, we would first refer to something like, oh, I don’t know, the wording of the statutes, and Black’s Law Dictionary.
By the way, you *did* provide some information: You’re in Charleston, SC, and you’re using Comcast.
I read a news article which brought me here. I think your Web site is clever and enlightening. I looked at her photos, and I have to say, that’s one UGLY broad. I cannot understand why anyone would want to date her. Does she get prettier the drunker one becomes?
In my defense, when I was with her 14 years ago, she was much better looking. The years of drug use and trashy living have not been kind to her. At that time she was 19/20 years old.
Wow, so you are saying that she is only 34. She looks like 50.